Elisa Zied, MS, RD, CDN, is the author of Nutrition at Your Fingertips (www.nutritionatyourfingertips.com), a practical, easy-to-follow,
go-to guide for healthy living. Here's what this New York mother of two has to say:
"Brian, my husband of nearly 17 years, has taught me so much about parenting. He is a big problem-solver and likes to do one thing at a time and do it well, while I, like most women, multitask and often feel frazzled doing so! He has taught me to handle my stress/feeling overwhelmed by breaking down tasks into pieces and practicing better time-management skills. For example, he's taught me to think about exactly what I have to do to get the job done, and to break it down using a calendar. Using this strategy has helped me feel more in control of my time, and more organized in my thoughts. I have also been able to help my older son, now in fifth grade, apply this idea to his schoolwork. Brian is also great at teaching the kids specific skills—he likes to encourage the kids (and me, for that matter) to practice with a plan. An example: shooting a lay-up in basketball. If you try to make a lay-up without breaking it down into steps, it will be tough to do. If instead you break up a lay-up into each individual move required to help you do one, you'll be much more likely to succeed (watch out, NBA!). I try to teach these concepts to my children because it's much easier to do things step by step, one thing at a time, instead of trying to tackle everything at once.
My husband has also taught me different ways to think about things, which has helped me in the way I parent my children. We try to teach our children to have a strong work ethic and to try their hardest and apply themselves to the best of their ability when they're at school, but that's a lot easier said than done. My husband is great at applying what the kids are learning at school to real life—providing a context—to make the lessons learned at school stick. For example, when it comes to learning math, my husband uses the analogy of building a bridge. In math, there is only one right answer. You can't almost get it right. When you build a bridge, there's no room for error—you need to build it correctly so that people can be safe when they cross the bridge. The lesson is that you don't have to be a perfect person, but that some things you do in life have to be done perfectly or there could be terrible consequences. A great life lesson!"
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